Saturday, July 27, 2013





Paul Babicki Interview!

The following is the article written about Paul Babicki in the Princeton Packet on 7/19/2013. This sums up some of the specifics of my book, "NetiquetteIQ - A Comprehensive Guide to Improve Enhance, and Add Power to Your Email". The link to the article is:

http://www.centraljersey.com/articles/2013/07/19/
the_princeton_packet/lifestyle/doc51e8254a8920d088434729.txt


Here is the article itself:

You probably think you’re a pretty good email writer, right? Well, Paul Babicki has news for you.
   According to Mr. Babicki, a paltry 5 percent of emails are high-quality, effective correspondences. About 80 percent are spam, many others are things you don’t need (being CC’d on something that isn’t important to you, for example), and others are just bad.
   The bad ones are marred by grammar and spelling errors, a lack of civility, and “textspeak,” according to Mr. Babicki. That’s why he has written the book “NetiquetteIQ: A Comprehensive Guide to Improve, Enhance and Add Power to Your Email,” which is scheduled to be released Aug. 15.
   ”All of this new technology really is great because you send more letters in one click than you could send in a lifetime (but) it seems as though that’s not helping,” says Mr. Babicki, a Hopewell resident. “In other words, for all the good it does, it creates as many problems, and if you don’t deal with those problems, then you’re not going to be able to utilize the technology the best way you could.”
   The book is described by Mr. Babicki as the ultimate guide to email, and is part of his Hopewell-based Netiquette project, which also includes a blog (netiquetteiq.blogspot.com) and other products and services.
   Mr. Babicki has worked in IT sales and marketing for 25 years, and like all of us, has seen his share of bad emails. But it was a school supply that prompted the Netiquette endeavor. After purchasing some spiral notebooks for his daughters, he noticed the notebooks included a chart. Expecting the chart to be the periodic table, he saw that it was a guide to abbreviations for texting and email, the kind of stuff that would have people writing “R u going 2 the party?” for example. Encouraging that kind of writing was too much.
   ”When I see emails (with such language) that come in from very intelligent, well-to-do people, really any demographic, any age, I’m appalled,” he says. “And particularly with younger people who obviously have never written a real letter. That’s OK, I guess, but at least you can make it so that it’s polite and clear and answers questions and so forth.”
   The good news, he says, is that writing quality emails can help you stand out by creating effective means of communications as you search for jobs, advance in your career or seek customer service. To illustrate the power of good writing, Mr. Babicki includes an email version of the Gettysburg Address, featuring the abbreviation “G’burg” and lines like “so we all would B free. Now we’re @ war. We just had a big battle & I wanted 2 pay tribute 2 the dead . . .”
   ”If (Abraham Lincoln) wrote it in today’s writing (style), would it be a famous document in 200 years? Of course not,” Mr. Babicki says.
   Other bad habits he’s noticed are one-word responses, empty subject fields, answers to questions without context, and attempts at humor that don’t translate if the recipient doesn’t know the writer.
   The book offers a comprehensive guide to emailing, covering various topics, such as politeness, language, the subject line, the cc and bcc fields, threads, signatures, grammar, spelling, punctuation and much more. Various appendices include helpful information including “Power and Beautiful Words,” “Irritating Phrases,” how to close emails of different styles (business, friendly, informal) file extensions, poor passwords and more.
   Email has been around a while, and today’s youngsters don’t remember a world without it. Mr. Babicki says children need to be made aware of the consequences that occur not only from ineffective emails, but also of sending inappropriate emails. A quick Google search will result in several articles about people got into trouble because of inappropriate emails.
   ”What you need to do with (children), in terms of the Internet, because you can’t keep them 100 percent away, is you need to educate them on the dangers,” Mr. Babicki says. “And part of my book deals with that, the bullying. The fact is that (with) email, if you say something, it’s not going to go away, there’s a record of it, and it can come back to haunt you.”
   And he admits that he has had some struggles with email.
   ”I’m getting really good at not emailing people when I’m mad,” he says. “If you email somebody when you’re mad, almost anything that happens is not good. You say something bad, you can ruin a relationship, whether it’s business or casual. Your tone comes across in a hostile manner . . . If you send an angry email, it may take you one minute to send it, and you’ll regret it for years.”
   When asked who his “NetiquetteIQ” target audience is, Mr. Babicki responds by promising that his answer is not a sales pitch, then says, “There are 4 billion email users in the world, OK? Anyone.”
“NetiquetteIQ: A Comprehensive Guide to Improve, Enhance and Add Power to Your Email” will be available on Aug. 15 at Amazon.com. For more information, go to www.netiquetteiq.com

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Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Dating email - get better results! - Part II








My last post of 7/21/2013 listed many items one should not have in a dating email. Today's email be take the positive side and offer positive things one should do in their date mail. As  mentioned in my book ( see my website at www.netiquetteiq.com), email is the least effective form of communications. It is important to focus on positives. This begins with good Netiquette skills. Just the format, name identifier field and subject field alone, when poorly done, can cause an email not to be taken seriously or even read. Remember that date emails are typically competitive in nature and positives, no matter how small, can make a difference in being successful. Here are some suggestions for making your email stand out.

1. Be yourself in the way you would like others to perceive you. Think of all the best ways to accomplish this. Make sure your attitude is at its best when writing an email.

2. Be brief in the length. Set a tone to have your recipient want to know more.

3. Ask about a couple of their favorite things such as places to go on a date.

4. Use the person's name. Reference them more often thsn yourself. This conveys a personalization.

5. Mention common interests if you know of any.

6. Show your human side such caring for animals.

7. Remember that you can not be perfect all of the time. Aim to be as good as you can be.

8. Lastly use words that everyone understands and which have a good sound and connote a positive tone. Some of these are:

reliable
 
quality
 
accuracy
 
adaptability
 
admirable
 
devoted
 
balanced
 
gracious
 
faithful
 
perceptive
 
energy
 
brilliance
 
clarity
 
genuine
 
compelling
 
confidence
 
loyalty
 
consistent
 
meaningful
 
creative

My post of 3/5/2013 has more.

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Also there will be an email "IQ" test on our website:
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Sunday, July 21, 2013

Dating email - get better results! - Part I



Dating email is one which requires sound thinking and balance. Just as in an business email, a single word or phrase can derail forever any opportunity to move forward with your recipient. Also keep in mind that what begins as a simple email might end up being a lifetime fulfillment.

Follow all basic Netiquette rules! They are all over this blogsite or in my book, "NetiquetteIQ - A Comprehensive Guide to Improve, Enhance, and Add Power to Your Email". Simple items such as emoticons, abbreviations, spelling, and format are essential. More advanced areas to avoid are:

Do not overstate the obvious
Do not brag about accomplishments
Do not discuss money
Avoid jokes on the initial emails
Never bring up politics
Do not respond too quickly, respond back from between 24-36 hours
Respond during normal times time of polite correspondence, 8:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m.
Never make assumptions
Do not make unnecessary apologies
Do not comment on other on-line dating experiences
Do not make any references or innuendos to adult language or conduct

The number one, most important rule of date email Netiquette is  to never exaggerate or prevaricate! Sooner or later, if a relationship begins to develop and grow, the truth will prevail.

Remember . . .

Diamonds are forever, email comes close.
-- Jane Kronholz

There are other categories of email which share some similarities of dating email. These concern social situations such as applications for membership in a group or organization, introductory letters outside of business and certain solicitations.

As much as any other type of email, tone is very critical. Also, in my opinion, being yourself is as well. Try to develop an "ethos" or consistent way to express yourself  in a balanced and objectified way. You want the person you are communication with to receive a message that is you. All of the dos and don't are really just a vehicle to make that happen.

My next blog posting will part Part II of this post, which will offer insights as to what one should do in dating emails.

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We will be publishing a book on Netiquette shortly entitled "NetiquetteIQ - A Comprehensive Guide to Improve, Enhance and Add Power to Your Email". 
Also there will be an email "IQ" test on our website:
Paul Babicki
+Serkan Gecmen
serkan@netiquetteiq.com

Happy emailing and good Netiquette!
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