Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Netiquette - Catching a Lie in an Email - Via Netiquette IQ

Tone in an email is a very important as I have iterated many times.

Studies have shown that many people hide behind email for a number of negative reasons.

Since a recipient cannot see or hear the sender of an email, it can be far harder to make a judgement if someone is prevaricating. The following post has has some very nice hints on how to better discern if someone might not be telling the truth!
Catch a Lie in an Email or Text Message by Looking for These Red Flags
Thorin Klosowski Lifenacker 5/20/2014

Catching a liar in person usually just means looking for a variety of nonverbal cues, but that's not as easy when it's written in a text message or email. For that, The Wall Street Journal suggests looking for subtle changes in how someone words things:

 Detecting a lie over text is tough, but you can watch out for a variety of red flags. Here are just a few of them
·         Watch for when a writer omits personal pronouns from a story
·         Look for noncommittal expressions (probably, pretty sure, must have)
·         Changes in tense can signal a lie in an otherwise true story
·         Uncharacteristic speech can indicate a lie
·         Abrupt changes of topics are often used to move the topic away from a lie
·         Look for too much insignificant detail
·         Qualifier statements like "to be honest" and "as far as I remember" can signal a lie
It's not nearly as easy as spotting a lie in person, but it can be done. As with spotting any lie, none of the above red flags guarantee a lie and depends on context. Still, they're often good indicators of lies.
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