I have often written that Netiquette has timeless roots from a number of cultures and practices going back to antiquity. Core concepts of Netiquette embrace our times and particulars, i.e. social media. Below are excerpts from a book published in 1866 by Albert Mantine - Martine’s Hand-book
of Etiquette, and Guide to True Politeness. You'll see that all of the items could be written and applied today!
So when you think and reflect on your Netiquette whether in email or a media such as Facebook, put yourself in the place of others as to how you may be viewed upon!
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Good Netiquette to all!
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. . . He then goes on to
outline a cautionary taxonomy of “bores” and other ill-mannered conversation
archetypes, diagnosing the specific downfall of each:
The Art of Conversation:
Timeless, Timely Do’s and Don’ts from 1866
by Maria Popova
- The loud talker, who “silences a whole party by his sole power of lungs”:
All subjects are alike
to him; he speaks on every topic with equal fluency, is never at a loss, quotes
high authority for every assertion, and allows no one else to utter a word; he
silences, without the least ceremony, every attempt at interruption, however
cleverly managed. … Great, and especially loud and positive talkers, have been
denounced by all writers on manners as shallow and superficial persons.
- The excessive life-sharer, whom you no doubt know well from your Facebook timeline:
[This is] the man who gives an account of
his dogs, horses, lands, books, and pictures. Whatever is his, must, he thinks,
interest others; and listen they must, however resolutely they may attempt to
change the current of his discourse.
Women of this class are
sometimes too fond of praising their children. It is no doubt an amiable
weakness; but I would still advise them to indulge as little as possible in the
practice; for however dear the rosy-cheeked, curly-headed prattlers may be to
them, the chances are, that others will vote the darlings to be great bores;
you that have children, never speak of them in company.
- The clever bore “takes up every idle speech, to show his wisdom at a cheap rate”:
The grave expounder of
truisms belongs to this class. He cannot allow the simplest conversation to go
on, without entering into proofs and details familiar to every child nine years
of age; and the tenor of his discourse, however courteous in terms and manner,
pays you the very indifferent compliment, of supposing that you have fallen
from some other planet, in total and absolute ignorance of the most ordinary
and every-day things connected with this little world of ours. All foreigners
are particularly great at this style of boring.
- The indifferent or apathetic bore parades his inattentiveness in your face:
If he refrains from the
direct and absolute rudeness of yawning in your face, [he] shows, by short and
drawling answers, given at fits and starts, and completely at variance with the
object of the conversation, that he affects at least a total indifference to
the party present, and to the subject of discourse. In society, the absent man
is uncivil; he who affects to be so, is rude and vulgar. All persons who speak
of their ailings, diseases, or bodily infirmities, are offensive bores.
Subjects of this sort should be addressed to doctors, who are paid for
listening to them, and to no one else. Bad taste is the failing of these bores.
- The lingering bore who overstays his welcome:
[These are] the ladies
and gentlemen who pay long visits, and who, meeting you at the door prepared to
sally forth, keep you talking near the fire till the beauty of the day is
passed; and then take their leave, “hoping they have not detained you.” Bad
feeling or want of tact here predominates.
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